Dating Sites and Apps
No, I don't mean Tinder. That will probably increase your loneliness. There are plenty of dating sites and apps you can use to meet up with new people. For a list of the best ones for travelers, click here.
If you absolutely must use Tinder, sign up for Tinder Gold. It's not free, but the premium account will let you choose your location before you arrive so you'll have new friends waiting, or perhaps arriving around the same time. But check out the list above for alternatives.
I’ll be honest; most of the dating apps and sites I have used made me feel worse. I’ve tried Tinder, but immediately realized that it was not for me. Plenty of Millenials enjoy hooking up for casual sex, but that just isn’t for me. Sure, it can be fun, especially when you’re traveling to anm exotic location. I’m not a thin woman, so when I visit places like Jamaica, Morocco, Egypt, or Nigeria, the men go crazy over what they believe is a romantic complinent; “Gal, ya’ got a fat ass!” <sigh>
But when I’m able to put aside my feminist shrieks of indignation, it’s nice ot know I’ve still got it.
But no, I do not want to enjoy a night, or a week, of pure, unadulterated casual sex.
I’ve tried using other sites like Plenty of Fish, OK Cupid, and Interracial Dating Central, where at least some members are open to finding a potential, long-term relationship. But the old saying, “You get what you pay for” is true. People do meet soul mates on these sites, I suppose.
I never did.
I tend to get a lot of messages on these free sites from men who live with their mothers, or are “in between” jobs. No matter what time of the day or night I signed on to check messages, the same guys would be there, cyber flirting.
One time a guy once who showed up and I was excited. He was cute and really funny. But, the minute we got in his car he took out some coke and started sniffing and snorting right in front of me. I was in shock, but I just said I wasn’t feeling well and would he mind if I took a rain check.
I’m not saying all guys on these sites are a waste of time, but people who pay to be on a dating site or app tend to be more selective, and are serious about finding somebody.
The main problem with the popular sites, though, even the ones that you pay for, is the fact that I travel so much.
Sure; plenty of men love to travel, so when I have met people who are also seeking a potential relationship and make enough money where they can afford to go on trip with me, what happens if I were to meet someone special? And I’m off jet-setting to Europe or Africa or Asia?
They get jealous, that’s what.
Most people can afford to take a week or two off from their 9-5’s each year, but can’t afford the time or money to be able to just pick up and go.
I’ve had guys say some pretty catty comments, like, “So, what are you looking for, a sugar daddy, or something?” Or, “You must come from a wealthy family,” or some other thinly veiled comment. Often they’re intimidated because they believe I’m high maintenence or realize that they can’t keep up, and they assume (wrongly) that I’m off screwing a different guy in each country. The truth is, it can be really lonely being an independent location remote worker, and I wish I could find somebody who has a similar lifestyle.
(You can also check out, “The Sexy, Glamorous, Lonely AF Life of a Location Independent Blogger” to read more about all of the crazy, sex-filled, passionate one-night stands I never had.)